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World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Virtual Telesummit

I have some exciting news for you! You may have received an email from me a while ago announcing World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day is officially a thing.  (Read the press release.) I am thrilled to announce that this year, Athena Moberg, CPC and I, are hosting a virtual World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day Telesummit. We have hand-picked speakers who have unparalleled expertise in their fields… who are devoted to helping people and raising awareness… who we have the utmost respect for… and who we knew could shed light on all aspects of narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery. Also, we would like you to know that every speaker enthusiastically offered their time, and volunteered their support of WNAAD's mission despite their very hectic schedules… which speaks volumes about their passion and dedication to their field and helping others.

Access is complimentary to all the expert interviews for a limited time starting June 1st. Once you register for your free access you can listen at your leisure June 1st - June 7th. You will receive an email on or before June 1st with details and instructions on how to access the expert interviews. Reserve your free access now before it's too late! All you need to do is subscribe here.

Here is a list of the speakers and topics that will be presented at this year’s event

Sandra L. Brown, MA-  Why It's More Than Just Being an 'Empath'--Understanding the Personality Science Behind Why You Are Targeted

Richard Grannon- Emotional Literacy, Ferocity of Intent, How To Stop Emotional Flashbacks

Lori Gill, MA.- Neurological and Physiological Implications of Trauma

Lisa Romano- The Dynamics Between Codependency and Narcissism- Why Do Codependents Attract Narcissists?

William Brennan, ME.D, LMHC, CAP- E.M.D.R Treatment- Healing The Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse

Christine Louis de Cannonville- The Pathological Behaviors of Narcissistic Mothers

Steve Becker, LCSW, CH.T- The Red Flags of Psychopathic Personalities

HG Tudor- Inside the Mind of A Narcissist- What The Narcissist Thinks When You Go 'No Contact" and The Most Effective Strategies to Release Their Hold On You 

Jennifer Young, LMHC- Has the Narcissist Really Changed with New Partner?

Sherri Renner, JD- Legal Battles with Cluster B Individuals in Family Court: What to Expect, When to Prepare, and How to Survive the Crucible

Heather Tuba, BA- Supporting A Partner With Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Kami Lindgren, BA - Life Beyond Pain

Tina Fuller- Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents

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The 8 Most Common Narc-Sadistic Conversation Control Tactics

Do you often engage in conversations with your narcissist that leave you feeling like you were talking to a brick wall –or worse, maybe leave you feeling like banging your head against a brick wall? Perhaps, it has even crossed your mind that you would have been better off conversing with a brick wall because the wall would have more capacity of providing understanding, validation, and empathy than the narcissist in your life!

Real life conversations with a narcissist are exhausting, dizzying, nerve-racking, and make you feel like you’re going crazy, or at least drive a compassionate person to question their own reality, and even their sanity at times. The circular conversations leave you feeling worse off than if you had never had them in the first place. You begin to blame yourself, doubt your instincts, and wonder what the heck is going on?
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10 New Year’s Resolutions For Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

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The New Year represents renewal, new beginnings, and a clean slate. It rests in our hands like a blank book. What will you write for the next chapter of your life?

If 2016 has painfully reminded us of anything, it’s that life is short. Tomorrow is never promised. Every day is precious. Much too precious and valuable to be spent disconnected from yourself, walking on eggshells, living for others, and settling for a life less than the one you deserve.

Happy New Year my friends. Hope your 2017 brings you many blessings, peace, and freedom.

Cheers,

Bree

img_9351-1Bree Bonchay, LCSW, is a psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines and she has appeared on radio as a guest expert. She is also a dedicated advocate, educator, and facilitates survivor support groups and workshops.

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The 11 Most Common Narcissistic Hoovering Tactics


There’s a phenomenon we’ve all experienced at least one time called Synchronicity. It’s when you think of someone you haven’t thought about in years and then run into them a few hours later. Synchronicity always reminds me of another phenomenon that I call, Coincidental Hoovering. This phenomenon, more often than not, happens to the former partners, and relatives of narcissists. It’s when you finally start feeling some relief and peace in your life and make a giant Stover move like finally deleting your ex’s telephone number, or an even bigger Stover move, and change your number, and then out of the blue, you receive some kind of communication or an unexpected visit from your narcissist.

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The Reasons Why Narcissistic Parents Designate A Scapegoat & A Golden Child 

Narcissistic parents, who appear to be great parents, are the worst of all. These toxic parents are the ones who you would never suspect. They could be active members of the PTA. They may be regular church goers, the beloved community leaders, or the ones who regularly donate to charities.

On the outside, they appear to be wonderful, doting parents with perfect lives –the pillars of society. But, in the privacy of their own homes, they’re bullies. They are tyrannical. They run their homes with all the love of an incubator, and their children are mere ornaments.

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The Truth About Getting Closure With A Narcissist

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The concept of closure means different things to people. We can’t see it, touch it, or even agree on exactly what it is, but so many survivors of narcissistic abuse hang their whole relationship recovery on getting it. Unfortunately, you never get anything that resembles real closure with a narcissist. And even those folks who don’t want their ex back still believe it will help them to feel better, and make it easier for them to move forward if they could get closure in the form of knowing that their ex-narcissist misses them, wants them back or is at least sorry.

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The 3 Early Red Flags You’re Dating A Narcissist

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It can be difficult to tell if that great guy or gal you’re dating is really a narcissist. After all, hiding who they really are is what narcissists do best. And the worst narcissists, the ones you really need to watch out for, are the best at concealing it. Even those folks who believe they’ve acquired Sherlock Holmes level detective skills for spotting these wolves in sheep’s clothing still find themselves raising an eyebrow, questioning every indelicate word, or dubious action. Fortunately, there are three tell-tale early warning signs. So, if you see any of these, do yourself a favor, and swipe left.

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What You Need To Know About Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, recovery is a slow, frustrating, and tedious process. The frequent complaints of pain and emotional distress are often dismissed by loved ones, and even mental health professionals as malingering, and a lack of desire to heal and get better.  However, recent trauma research indicates that these complaints are the direct result of the real physiological damage done to survivors, while they were exposed to the prolonged emotional, and psychological trauma of an abusive relationship.

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A Simple Remedy For Feeling Better After Narcissistic Abuse

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If you’re struggling to heal from and move on after narcissistic abuse, you’re probably frustrated that it’s taking so long. Healing from narcissistic abuse is so much more complicated than healing from a regular break up. This is why the typical breakup advice and tips not only don’t work, but often times leave you feeling even worse off, and wondering if something is wrong with you. The popular breakup wisdom that advises you, that you will feel better if you find a new hobby, and change up your hairstyle, doesn’t help you to get over it any faster. The common remedies for a broken heart fall short because they don’t address the broken spirit, mind-bending confusion, cognitive dissonance, unanswered questions, lack of closure, and the callous, post-discard behavior characteristic of break ups with narcissists.

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Go “Stover” After Narcissistic Abuse

Stover isn’t just no contact, no response for a certain amount of time to clear your head, and heal your heart. Stover is a frame of mind. It’s your new mantra. Stover is rejecting anyone who doesn’t appreciate you. Stover is closing the door forever, and putting a padlock on it. Stover is accepting the relationship is finished, and there’s no turning back, no matter what. Stover is ensuring there is zero possibility of any reconciliation, or potential for a future friendship. Stover is letting go of the need for vindication, or hope of an apology. Stover is accepting that the outcome was inevitable. Stover is building an impenetrable fort of protection. Stover is erecting a boundary that is indestructible. Stover is reacting proactively to guard against relationship amnesia. Stover is feeling confident about permanently ejecting toxicity from your life. Stover is crossing the bridge, then throwing a grenade over your shoulder, and blasting the bridge to bits. Stover is diffusing the narcissist’s vortex from ever regenerating. Stover is taking back your power. Stover is the sum of many small actions that equal complete, and total self-love. Stover is the loudest silent message that the relationship is not just over, it’s STOVER (So Totally Over!).  Click on the link to read more about How To Permanently Detach From A Narcissist.

 

img_9351-1Bree Bonchay, LCSW, is a psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines and she has appeared on radio as a guest expert. She is also a dedicated advocate, educator, and facilitates survivor support groups and workshops.

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