Why Most Narcissists Hate The Holidays

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As the holiday season draws near, many of us get into the “holiday spirit” with anticipation. The end of the year brings a hectic pace with it, as people celebrate joyous occasions, like Thanksgiving with loved ones, then quickly start planning, and preparing for the festivities of Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa; topped off by ringing in the New Year, on New Year’s Eve.

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Why Most Narcissists Devalue And Discard Their Partners

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Why do narcissists seem to pick the worst possible times to discard their partners? Are they really that cold-blooded, that they not only break-up with you, but also plan to do it at a time that would add insult to injury? What would motivate a narcissist to hurt someone they professed to love so much, in such a heartless and brutal manner?

I have heard many stories of narcissists dumping their partners right before a major holiday, or on their partner’s birthday, or after their partner shared something very personal. I’ve also heard of narcissists ending relationships right before a special planned event, or when their partner was down on their luck, grieving the loss of a loved one, or even diagnosed with a serious illness. The list of heartless, cold and calculating ways that narcissists end relationships, continues on and on.

It is not your imagination. Indeed, it is true that the narcissist will purposely plan the timing of the breakup to occur during times when distress or vulnerability is extremely high in your life.

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Is The Narcissist As Happy With The New Woman As He Appears On Social Media?

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So, you think the narcissists is happier with the new woman? You couldn’t resist the urge to cyber-peek, or muster the strength to block him, and now your Facebook feed is bombarded with shiny, happy, couple photos of him, and his new target, looking oh-so-happily in love. Before you jump to conclusions, I want you to imagine a photograph of the typical, happy, vacationing couple, who have been together for only a short 4 months. Picture a cliché “ussie ” photo, a selfie photo, but for couples, on a tropical white sandy beach with the ocean in the background, that you have seen posted on Facebook a million times. Everyone who sees the picture, while scrolling through their news feed thinks, “Oh, what a happy, little, vacationing couple they are!” “Those two are so cute together!” “They make such a great couple!”

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Happily Never After: Decoding Narcissistic Devaluation 

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Are you familiar with the parable of the boiling frog? The premise asserts that a frog submerged in boiling water will instinctively leap out, but if placed in tepid water that is gradually heated, the frog will be unable to discern the danger, resulting in it being cooked to death.

Metaphorically speaking, this story is cited to remind individuals that they need to be cognizant of gradual change, as well as sudden change. Being unaware of, or brushing off small changes in personalities or relationships that occur over time, hinders instinctual wisdom. If one isn’t paying close attention, these changes are often only perceptible when piecing together clues, that have occurred for a long period of time. Usually, this realization comes very late, often when lives have been altered in extremely negative and damaging ways.

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